You Think You Know What Autism Parent Balance Is? Test Yourself!
Do you ever feel like you are a car with a flat tire? C’mon you know what I mean!
You are the parent’s of kids, the glue for the entire family, doer of all the important things in the home while crushing this everyday life.
Of course you know!
Well, fyi, mental health has a huge impact on the different ways we can show up as parents. If we run our gas tanks on E, well let’s just say this has an adverse affect on the whole family!
Let’s do a check-in on these core areas and see how balanced we really are!
#1 You Are A Priority
I know what you’re gonna say. In fact, you’re laughing over your coffee if you’re reading this first thing this morning. Make myself a priority?
I’m an autism parent.
I have no work-life balance.
My shower is my sanctuary.
Driving is the only time I get to sit down all day.
So stop with the dream that I get some “me” time.
Alright, fair enough.
You get to spotlight what is important for you each day.
#2 Show Up For Yourself
In blogging we hear the phrase “show up for your readers.” I wasn’t ‘showing up” for myself though. I completely lost balance in my life.
My life consisted of work and more work. I had not given myself any room for things I love to do, or honestly just needed to keep me healthy.
We all have a need for healthy balance. When we consistently live lopsided, eventually something gives out.
Think of your tires on your car. When one of those tires bears more than it’s fair share of weight, it wears badly and then blows.
Showing up for yourself is one of those trending terms.
Its another way of saying your needs, wants, dreams and desires matter too.
#3 Family & Friends
So, I’m talking about more than a text or DM while you are multitasking. When is the last time you made actual plans and kept them with family members?
Pick a date for a weekend meal. My kids are in their early 20’s, so they are busy with jobs and life. We do try to plan a weekend meal about once a month.
We aren’t formal or fancy, we don’t have a dress code because this time is about connecting. We just want you there.
If birthdays or holidays are coming up, we celebrate those days while we are together.
The same holds true for friends. Just go meet them and spend a little time together.
#4 Excercise & Hobbies
I love to walk, but I live in a state with lots of snow. So, I go to Planet Fitness a few times a week for my physical health and the price is right.
You deserve to feel good in your body.
Physical exercise gets your endorphins flowing and you might be surprised what a huge impact a few home exercises can make.
Do you have a hobby you have put away for awhile? Consider making some room in your week for a girl’s night out, wine and painting or a class you have always wanted to take.
Nourish and nurture the important things for yourself and your whole family with good food. We are so blessed to have access on the internet and in our libraries to amazing recipes. Try out some new foods with super simple recipes or some old family favorites.
Ok, a lot of times we don’t feel like cooking. Take the entire family out for the night and have a little bit of fun together. Keep the important things
It’s the everyday life activities
These are all positive parts of our lives. Connecting with others is fun and we create great memories.
I’m just sayin know when your mind and body have had enough. Recognize when you need to disconnect and have some down time.
- Relax by the pool
- Grab a book or magazine
- Tap a nap
- Keep your schedule wide open for a whole day
#7 Parent Support & Support Groups
Let’s face it. Parenting ain’t for cowards. In fact, parenting is downright hard.
There, I said it.
Taking care of autistic children, and kids with health problems and/or developmental disabilities can create financial difficulties and daily stress.
Support groups and online forums can give us needed support and provide positive change.
Bonus: New friends!